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The hardest part of living in Japan

It’s almost 4 years now since I moved to Japan and this year is nothing but amazing. I was able to got home in Philippines last month for two weeks, my friends visited me here in Japan and it is their first time to travel abroad. It’s just March of 2019 and I can already say that this is gonna the best year ever. 2018 was really dramatic for me, depression, anxieties because of all the calamities happened in here that I had to face alone. But thank God I can say all the tears I cried was all worth it cause I am at my happiest right now.

Living and working in Japan for a quite while now, everything got so much better because I got used to the life I have right now. I built routines, met new people, more settled and got more matured at handling my life. There will always be mistakes and stupidity it’s part of life.

Being away from all your love ones is the hardest part, missing out important occasions like birthdays, weddings, Christmas, New Years and not to mention holidays that you always celebrate alone. Friends you want to see and hang out with were thousand miles away from you. Sure, I met new people and made some new friends but you know, you’re ‘go-to people’ ‘homecourt friends’ will always be different. They get you, the real you, you get each others humor that nobody else will understand but them.

I wrote this to give highlight to my friends who kept in touch for the last four years and made an effort to stay in my life even though I am already thousand miles away from them. It means a lot. I consider myself lucky and blessed enough to have people in my life that is so supportive that I can turn into when life is kinda overwhelming. They keep me grounded and reminds me of who I was before I came here. Life in Japan can be tiring sometimes and it is important to not lose yourself while living in this fast-paced life.

‘Keep swimming’

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24. soon.

Every time it is year-ending I can’t help but to feel sentimental cause it means I am one year older again and it makes me reflect what the whole year has brought me. I am going to be 24 soon, mid twenties is coming and I don’t know what to feel. I admit I felt the pressure at first when everyone around me is either getting engaged or having babies. My facebook timeline is full of people found ‘the one’, someone to share their lives with and friends asking me to be their babies Godmother.

I was afraid to be alone. I was terrified to live this life alone and no one to share it with. I was hopeless romantic always searching for the one great love. Until I realized, it is way more scarier to get married with the wrong person just because you don’t want to be alone. I decided to change my perspective. I am living independently for almost 2 years now. I can completely do this life alone. I underestimate what I can do just because I relay my happiness with looking for someone until I realized nobody can make me happy except me.

23. 24 soon and finally I can say I am now emotionally independent. I am taking my time to know myself and I am not pressured anymore that I am alone because so what? I love my life. I am embracing this life alone the good and the bad and actually enjoying it. I am not bothered anymore if no one is out there for me because for me I am already enough for myself. This isn’t easy journey a lot of trial and error but you know what it’s all about mindset and perspective. Love yourself hard and when that love is full that’s the time to share it with someone else. As of now, I am contented with where I am and happy. I never felt this peace in my entire life. If someone is gonna be out there for me in the future, I will think of it just a bonus from above.

Braver 2019! Let’s go!

xoxo

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How to Love Strong Independent Woman

For years she build herself up, spends day and night to really know herself, took countless of downfall before she finally accepted and love herself-all the good and bad. She value her solitude more than anything that’s why it’s tough to crack her wall. You’re so lucky to love by a woman who value herself.

1.She doesn’t need you. She wants you.

Bad day at work? She knows how to make herself happy-a jar of ice cream and netflix but she still want you to be there by her side to comfort her or watch rom-com movie with her while she’s sobbing, wipe her tears, hold her hands and hug her until she feels better.

2. Don’t be intimidated with her

We all know men’s ego are so big when they see women who are doing great and being successful more than them they feel so interfere. A boy will see her as a competitor and get intimated by having her shit together. A man who truly loves her will be supportive and a great cheerleader.

3. She is living up with her expectations

Strong independent woman expectations are so high because she always set the bar so high for herself.  So please don’t get tired when you think she’s being so demanding she just wanted you to be the best version of yourself that’s why she is always pushing you to do great things.

4. She hates being weak

Everyone around her admire her for having strong personality. You can never see her cry because she hate herself more than anything when she’s being weak. She will try her best to shrug off the negative feeling she has and show up like nothing is bothering her. Talk to her. Make her feel safe. Tell her it’s okay to cry and not be okay all the time. Be her safe haven that she can lean on when she can’t handle her world.

5. She tend to be workaholic

She understand that career is not everything but she is always chasing after success. Ask her to spontaneous adventures and dates like hiking on weekdays, long drive where you can alternate driving cause she knows how to handle car, take pictures of sunset. She won’t turn you down because she is addicted to life experiences. Remind her the world is vast and don’t be confined in her little world.

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Skincare routine

Disclaimer: I’m not a dermatologist these are only the products that work for my skin and since not everyone has the same skin type it might not work for others. The products I’m gonna show you are not paid nor advertisement. 

I started doing skincare routine when I was in college. I’m a late-bloomer thanks to my cousin who teaches me how to take care of myself and be lady-like. Ever since then, I became so addicted to skincare products because I’m too lazy to put on make-up everyday that I can even go to work without it. My thinking is if I have good skin, I don’t need to enhance or cover up the flaws of face.

My current skincare routine is here! Most of the time when I found products that works for my skin I stick with it cause I don’t want to explore and harm my face with changing of routines every now and then.

1. Dove facial wash

You need to wash your face 2x a day every morning and before you go to bed. What I love about this product is, it’s really light and not harsh to my face. It also gently exfoliate your face while you wash so after you use it. You can feel your face so glowing and soft. It can be found in any drug store in Japan.

2. Cetaphil Moisturizing Cream

I bought this one in Costco but it is also available at Amazon. I love this product because it doesn’t have any scent and light in your face. As you notice, I love products that are light-weighted and not-so oily when you put it. It also not harsh to my face this one also helps me to prevent my acne and lighten dark spots for some reason.

3. Biore Aqua Rich Sunblock

Most of us only apply sunblock when going to swim or beach but we didn’t notice in our everyday life when we step out of the sun. We are also exposed to harmful UV rays that can cause early wrinkles. You need to apply sunblock every time you go out to protect your skin from it. I love these cream type because just small amount of it can cover up your whole face. It can be found at any drug store in Japan but I bought mine at Costco.

4. Lush Honey Lip Scrub

When it’s winter, it’s so hard to prevent not to have chapped lips. Recently, I tried this Lush lip scrub. All you have to do is take a small amount of it and circularly rub it into your lips and voila! you can feel your lips so soft and looking kissable. That small tub can go a long way, it can be messy when you apply it but it smells so good like sugar and honey it’s all organic.

5. Lush Mask of Magnaminty

This mask is all over the interrnet. I already tried most of the lush masks and I can tell why netizens love this particular mask. It can prevent acne and lighten dark spots. When you apply it, you can feel relax with the minty smell of it and the coldness from it that cover your whole face. It also has some I don’t know if it’s oats or something but all organic that also helps to exfoliate your face without harming your skin. After I use it,  I can feel my face so smooth, soft, clean and glowing.

6. Cure Natural Aqua Gel

I use this product to exfoliate at least 2x a week. This is my ultimate go-to exfoliate. This is really top-seller among Japan’s skincare products. It can cost 3,000 yen but it can lasts for 3-4 months depending on your usage. You can use it in your face, elbows, knees or underarm to exfoliate and remove all the dead skin cells and dirt. I’m using this for 5 years already and it never fails me.

There you have it! For beginners, always remember the steps of wash, tone, exfoliate and moisturize. You have to be really committed to achieve flawless skin.

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